Guilt, Anyone?
I was speaking in a group recently, where the issue of guilt was raised -guilt for not being available, guilt for saying no, guilt in parenting (a gimme), guilt for needing time and space...there's really no end to guilt.
I shared a mantra I often give my clients to whisper to themselves when unsure of what to do:
"I love you, but I love me more."
The first part of this mantra allows us to plug into our love and compassion for the other person in the situation, and that helps us tango with the second part, which inevitably brings up a cascade of fear that we're being ... wait for it...
SELFISH! (Cue gasp).
Guilt and the irrational belief that we're selfish create an enormous energy drain in our system. Think about how you hold your body when you feel guilty vs. how you hold it when you feel satisfied with your efforts. You literally see the energy draining out of you in the latter. That energy leak leads you to burnout, overwhelm, resentment, and irritable outbursts that upset your whole day.
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If this is you:
No matter how much self-care you practice, you're exhausted.
People don't respect your boundaries.
You know your expertise, but you still feel like a fraud.
You look out for everyone, but no one considers your needs.
Even though you work hard to stay calm, you still lose your temper.
Your life is bountiful, but you can't maintain a state of gratitude.
You know precisely what you must do, but don't do it.
I have fantastic news. First, you’re not alone. Second, it’s not your fault. Third, you can stop circling these drains (and when you do, everything gets better because YOU got better).
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